As a HR professional and coach I spend a lot of time encouraging diversity. Diversity in terms of race, creed, nationality for sure – but most importantly diversity of thought.
It is patently obvious that none of us knows as much as all of us. Having a pool of knowledge, ideas and interests that is as a broad as possible can surely only be a good thing.
Yet there are increasing calls to protect our historic culture and values by keeping ‘different’ people out. This goes much deeper than mere (ill informed) protectionism around jobs and wealth.
Most people judge their worth by comparing themselves to others. If others are judged to have achieved less (on whatever criterion is most damning) they are clearly inferior. They must be lazy, stupid, untrustworthy etc. We see this in in society at large – increasingly the poor are seen as undeserving. If my riches are down to my effort your poverty must be due to you being feckless. It has to be your fault as it cannot possibly be mere luck or family ties (or old school ties) that made me successful. Penniless immigrants washed up on the shores of Europe are not only poor but foreign and must be kept out at all costs. Never mind that they have the resourcefulness,courage and strength to undertake a massive, highly dangerous journey.
This then creates a real problem when we find someone has achieved more – that surely makes us lazy, stupid, feckless… Of course that can’t be right. They are obviously undeserving of their success – they stole it, got lucky, had rich parents… But above all else they are different and must be made to conform or be driven out of the tribe. After all someone ‘better’ than me is a constant reminder of my shortcomings.
We are social animals. In our evolutionary past remaining part of the tribe was a matter of life and death. We have evolved to be conformists, to fit in and follow the strong leaders rather than risk being exposed as ‘different’ and face expulsion.
Many (in)famous experiments have shown how we conform even when we ‘know’ our actions are questionable. Otherwise bright students gave obviously wrong answers to very simple questions when following the lead of the planted stooges. Subjects gave what they believed to be potentially lethal electric shocks to others when instructed to do so by ‘authority’ figures.
And so those who feel they have achieved less than they desire attack those who threaten their cosy mediocrity by having the talent, skill, persistence and creativity to achieve success. They also deride those who have achieved less, those who choose not to or can’t afford to wear the ‘right’ brands and those who are poor as they are an unwelcome reminder of what might have been. Others in the tribe soon join in – maybe too weak to start the the pogrom they are still eager to conform and join the mob. Some may feel uneasy but make sure that they are seen to throwing their support behind the attacks for fear of being next.
In this connected world of social media these attacks and exclusions are no longer physical, hiding behind a smartphone they are easier to commit by the weak but are no less wounding for the victims.
It takes real strength to dare to stand out by being different. It takes strength to champion high achievers and see them as aspirational role models rather than threats. To discover what can be learnt from them instead of silencing them for fear of having your own accomplishments diminished shows a real desire to be the best you can be – not simply the top dog in a weak pack.
It takes equal strength and compassion to stand up for those who have less than us, to support and nurture them. Help them to be the best they can be. It takes real humanity.
Despite the fact that our differences make us collectively stronger it takes real courage to stand up to the mob and declare support for difference. When we understand that the mob attacks from a position of fear and weakness they become much less intimidating.
Ask yourself if you have gone along with the status quo and stood silently on the sidelines, supported the mob or even joined in the attack. How good do you feel about that?
Baby when you hold me
I can feel so wrong
You’re trying to console me
Your chance has long gone
So baby won’t you take my hand?
So we can do what the others can
We are alive tonight, we are alive tonight
I am going home forever and ever more
No I was never born and there’s no such thing as home
We used to stand so strong
That’s why the others have gone
Different person, different argument
In my shadow, no more compliments
One more person breaking the rules again
I’m still waiting for someone else to join in
Stand where the others stand
We’re alive tonight
Land where the others land
We’re alive tonight
Biffy Clyro – Different People