We’ve recently returned from holiday. As a family one of our favourite things is people watching and a holiday provides the perfect blend of time and interesting people to watch. I say interesting, all people are fascinating of course and all human life was there. Or at least that slim section of life that can both afford and choose to lie by a pool in the Mediterranean.
There was this one guy, big, overweight, bald headed, no neck and tattoos including a crude England (or should that be Engerland?) flag across his distended gut. He looked like a builder who had done well, you could imagine him on the terraces roaring the team on. He spent all day from around 8.00 am under an umbrella, head on a pillow. He was a hard man for sure, no one was going to invade his space. I wondered how he felt about being surrounded by well heeled Germans and Russians. Not my kind of guy looking like that.
One guy spent most of the day on his laptop. He lay by the pool tapping away on the laptop or yelling at people down the phone while his younger ‘trophy wife’ baked in the sun. It was clear that he was utterly indispensable (or he had hired a bunch of muppets and/or was unable to delegate). Twice a day he would swim a lap of the pool with his partner before she went and brought him a cocktail and he returned to his laptop. In his Vilebrequin shorts and designer sunnies he was making sure that we all knew who was the alpha male. I wondered how his partner felt about the lack of attention. Again not my kind of guy behaving like that.
Then there was this guy who had the most loving and tender conversation with his daughter. He was a bit loud and then repeated it all to his partner (presumably not the mother from the way it sounded). They were arranging to meet up and he sounded like a truly loving father. More like my kind of guy expressing feelings like that.
As I said all human life. And these three blokes all came together – in the same body. Which just goes to show that appearances can be deceptive, first and even second impressions don’t tell the full story.